When you move through your divorce you may feel as if your entire life is being turned upside down. This upheaval can lead to emotional fallout that appears overwhelming to handle. If you do not want to get divorced this can be even harder to comprehend and start to manage. When we work with clients, we help them move through the process and build a stronger life for themselves so they can easily walk into their post divorce life. Putting the right supports in place for yourself will greatly help you manage all of the pieces and stress.
Get honest with yourself about what is happening. Many individuals, even those who actually want their divorce, have problems accepting the reality of what is going on with their lives. Usually this happens when one partner moves out, the kids start visiting their new homes, or a joint account is closed. It is very important that, at each and every step, you keep moving forward.
Getting organized will help you feel as if you are in control of the process. There is a lot of information to organize as you move through your final judgement for divorce and into your post-divorce life. Clients who are organized have the best chance of staying ahead of the stress. Files or a binder can help as you start to collect documentation related to financials, housing, and even a list of important phone numbers to remember.
Putting a support system in place is an important next step. When we partner with you and help you get divorced, we take care of each legal issue for you. When you have experienced representation your stress level will be lower and feelings of being overwhelmed will lessen. However, you will still need help sorting out and managing the myriad of emotions you may feel. Explore the idea of seeing a counselor and also find a few close confidants – ideally those who have gone through a divorce, to help you when you need support.
Trust the process: So many people start the divorce process scared they are going to wind up broke at the end of the process and with significantly less time seeing their children.