Divorce can be stressful, but you can take steps to make it easier. You can’t control your spouse, but you can control your reaction to the process and to the times when issues or people become difficult. The attorneys at Karen Ann Ulmer, P.C., know the law and what you’re going through. We support our clients every step of the way and can help you make the process a bit easier on yourself:
- Stay organized
There are many documents, dates, and deadlines during the divorce process. Avoid the stress of missing documents or playing catch up after passing deadlines. If you control your schedule, you won’t lose control of your life.
Use an online or paper calendar and buy some folders. If you’re more computer-inclined, scan your important documents and organize them electronically. If you don’t want your spouse snooping on your material, protect your laptop or computer with a password.
- Be on time
You have enough stress in your life. Being chronically late will cause you, and those who rely on you, problems. Those rare times you must be in court, you must be on time. We should get there early so we can go over your case and have time to take a breath or two. A court appearance will be stressful enough for you, one that’s late will only be worse. It also sends the message that you don’t respect the court’s time or that of your spouse or the attorneys involved. That is not a message you want to convey.
- Lock down your social media
Your spouse and their attorney can read everything you post on social media. There are no secrets online, so it’s best to stay away. Let your friends and followers know you care, but that you need to step away for a time, then unplug. If you have good friends you trust, talk to them in person or on the phone. If necessary, get help from a mental health professional to help you cope.
- Your child has another parent
Your child has the right to enjoy a relationship with both parents and ideally, the issues that drove you and your spouse apart are not child-related. However, if you cannot reach an agreement regarding your children, a judge will make decisions for your family which are binding. We help our clients work with their soon-to-be-ex (or ex) to ensure reasonable agreements are in place. You both love your children. Do the best you can with what you have until permanent arrangements are made.
Get the Help You Need From an Attorney You Can Trust
Given all you’ve heard about divorce, you may fear getting one. It’s a manageable process that we’ve helped hundreds of others get through. Have questions about divorce or need legal representation? Call our office at (215) 608-1867 or book a consultation online now. We can speak over the phone, via teleconference, or meet in our Doylestown or Langhorne office.
