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Dating During and After the Divorce

When you are going through a divorce, you may wonder whether you should be dating and if you do how it will impact your case. Once you are separated, even though the divorce is not yet final, you are permitted to date without it being considered grounds for adultery in the legal arena. While adultery is a factor in the consideration of an award of alimony, it refers to relationships that began prior to a separation not after. Once a divorce complaint is filed you are clearly separated and for some that may now involve the choice to date. If you are entitled to support or alimony, you may date both during the divorce or afterwards. As long as you do not cohabitate, it will not affect your alimony award. Cohabitation can be found even if the other person has their own residence if they spend significant overnights with you.

Whether you choose to date during or after the divorce is a personal choice. It is also a personal choice as to whether you want to disclose it to your former spouse. Sometimes it may help your former spouse accept that the relationship is over and in other cases it may add such fuel to the fire that it makes an amicable settlement impossible. In the latter case, you may want to wait until the divorce is final. If you have children with your former spouse, you should consider disclosing it to them at the point that you are ready to introduce your children to that person. Oftentimes, this is where conflict occurs. It is only natural for your spouse to have concerns about some third party around their children that they do not know, especially if this person is going to spend significant time with your children. If you really want avoid litigation in custody, you may want to provide as much information or even an introduction to your former spouse depending on the circumstances in order to avoid unnecessary litigation in custody. If you consider how you would want to be treated if you were in the situation, it may help to guide you in how to approach the situation with your former spouse.

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What happens if I don’t want a divorce?

Pennsylvania has two no-fault grounds for divorce. One is where both parties consent after 90 days of one being served the complaint and the other is where one party does not consent and the other party moves the divorce forward after a two year separation. If your spouse wants a divorce and you do not want a divorce, ultimately, unless they change their mind, they will be granted a divorce. Even if you have children and you contest that it is not in the best interest of the children, if your spouse does not wish to be married anymore, ultimately, the court will grant a divorce. You can delay the divorce by not consenting to the divorce. This will force your spouse to wait the two year period from when you separated before they can move the divorce forward. Even at that point, you can still contest that it is not irretrievably broken or that the two year separation has not occurred. You can say discovery is not completed and further delay the divorce or file an appeal. While there are many ways that a divorce can be delayed, ultimately, it will become final if one of the parties wants a divorce. The day will come when the marriage will end. While you may not want a divorce, you should weigh the benefits of delaying it against the costs. Unless you really think there is a chance of reconciliation if you delay it, or you benefit financially for health insurance purposes, sometimes, moving on quicker and accepting the ultimate outcome is better. It enables you to heal quicker and create a life that does not involve the pain and emotional turmoil that a drawn out divorce creates. It also may be financially better to have the finality and save in extended legal fees. Finally, it may also make it possible to move on to a different relationship with your ex-spouse where you are able to maintain a civil relationship verus one filled with resentment for keeping them in a marriage that they no longer desire.

For more information, see:/Family-Law-Divorce/Grounds-for-Divorce/

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How to Divorce a Spouse you cannot locate

If you want to divorce and are not able to locate your spouse, it is not completely hopeless to get a divorce. There are challenges involved that are different than when you have an address for a spouse. In order to divorce your spouse without an address or location, you will need to first make attempts to locate your spouse. Your attempts need to be documented. Some ideas would be to send mail to their last known address and save the envelope showing that it was not deliverable and that there is no forwarding address. You may also want to contact relatives of your spouse and keep copies of letters or calls you have made to attempt to locate them. You may also want to get statements from relatives or prior coworkers indicating that they have no idea where your spouse is located. You may even want to hire a professional to try to locate them through their date of birth or social security number. You may want to contact the Post Office and request freedom of information for a forwarding address. If, after you have exhausted all attempts to find your spouse and you still have no success, you can then petition the court to serve them the divorce by publication. You should be prepared for the costs of publication. Newspapers charge based on the number of words, and it is not unreasonable to expect that this cost will exceed $ 1000, even if you have no assets to divide which is the case in most divorces that involve a missing spouse.

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Equitable Distribution and Worker’s Compensation

One asset in equitable distribution or support that parties should consider when getting divorced is worker’s compensation awards. Depending on what state the worker lives, there may be a component not only for lost wages but also an award comparable to a personal injury award. In these instances, the lost wages should be calculated into any support award and the again, you will need to decide whether you want to lump sum the award portion as either income for purposes of support or as an asset for purposes of equitable distribution. In the event that it is considered as income, you cannot double dip and claim it as an asset. If, however, the award is for an injury that occurred outside of the marital period, either before or after separation, you will need to include it as income as you cannot include it as an asset. Your support order should be very detailed and specific and identify exactly what portion of any worker’s compensation is included in the calculation of the income. Whether to have the worker’s comp treated as an asset or income really depends on how the court will treat the asset. In some instances, the court may award the majority of that asset to the injured party and it may be better to then include it income if you are also eligible to receive support. Speaking with your attorney about the expected amounts would be wise to do before you make that decision so that you can decide whether it is better as support or as an asset.

For more information see:/Family-Law-Divorce/Division-of-Marital-Property/

 

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Income or Asset? Avoid the Double Dip

Oftentimes when getting divorced, an asset the generates income can either be considered in equitable distribution or in support. For example, if you receive stock options as part of your employment, they are considered an asset for purposes of divorce. If you cash them in during the divorce, it will either be considered an asset for income, but not both. If you have a pension that accumulated during the marriage and it goes into pay status during the divorce, or if it is already in pay status at the time of the divorce, it may be considered an asset or income but not both. You need to be careful that if you have a support order that the income from that pension or the stock option is not considered into the incomes if you want to have that asset considered an asset for equitable distribution. You need to be very careful that any support order entered specifically states whether any of the income was included, and if so, how much.

Sometimes, an asset may be a hybrid of a marital asset and non-marital asset. For example, a pension may include a portion of non-marital years and a portion that is marital. In that instance, you need to weigh whether it is better to include the entire pension income, or whether you want to include the non-marital portion income and include the marital portion as an asset for equitable distribution. Since you often receive more in equitable distribution than you do in support, oftentimes, the person who is entitled to a share of the pension or a share of the stock option will want to consider it in equitable distribution instead of support. Either way, be very clear in any agreements or order, which is so that there is no double dip if you are paying and that there is no argument it was already included if it was not considered.

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Tips when first separating from your spouse

If you are separating from your spouse, there are various things that you should do or not do during this time:

1. You should freeze any joint credit card debts so that your spouse does not continue to increase debt in your name.

2. You should freeze joint bank accounts if you are not going to be living together. If you need some of the funds to live, it is a good idea not to take more than half and to leave half for your spouse to prevent litigation. Your spouse can and sometimes will wipe out the entire account forcing you into litigation.

3. You should figure out a budget for yourself best on how much you earn and how much you will expect to receive or pay in support so you can figure out how much you can afford when looking for a place to live. An attorney can help you figure out this amount.

4. You should collect your statements from all your accounts both debt and assets so you can establish what the values were at separation.

5. You should not drop your spouse or children from health insurance as you may be required to continue coverage during the divorce.

6. You should not change the beneficiaries on any insurance policies until after your divorce and only if there is no court order to maintain coverage.

7. You should pull your credit report so you do not have any surprises on what may or may not exist during the divorce.

8. You should gather other important documents, including your marriage certificate, your deed, car titles.

9. If you are struggling emotionally with the separation/divorce, you should engage a good therapist to help you through the process.

10. If you are expecting to receive support you should file once you know you are going to move.

11. If you expect to have custody, make sure you move locally or first obtain permission from the Court.

12. Take the personal property items that are most important to you as oftentimes it is very difficult or cost prohibitive to fight over personal property later.

13. If possible, talk to your spouse and try to come to terms on things as much as possible and consider mediation or collaborative law as an option.

14. Hire an attorney who specializes in divorce if you decide that you need legal assistance to help you with custody or support or if you decide that divorce is your next step.  You should not have expectations based on what happened with a friend or relative’s similar situation.

15. Remember to be civil with your spouse. It will be easier and less expensive if you can handle matters with a respectful and practical approach.

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Who Pays What During a Divorce

Child Support: The party who does not have the majority of time pays child support or if the parties have equal custody time usually based on overnights, the party who earns more pays child support.

Spousal Support/Alimony: Paid by the party who earns more income

Mortgage/household bills: Paid by the party who remains in the home

Car Payment: Paid by the party who uses the car

Car Insurance: Paid by the party who uses the car

Medical Insurance: Paid by the party who carries the insurance and allocated during child support and spousal support in proportion to incomes

Home Equity Loan: Depends on what the loan was used for. May require a special relief action.

Credit Card Bills: Responsibility of both parties for what accumulated during the marriage. Typically paid by party whose name it in to protect credit but any payments made after separation should be document for shared reimbursement.

Repairs to House: Routine repairs are paid by party using home. Repairs that increase value f home benefit both parties and any payments made post separation should be documented to seek a credit.

Taxes: Parties may choose to file jointly or separately. If file jointly, usually a joint expense.

College Tuition: Neither parent is responsible for college tuition for children and any payments are voluntary and not reimburseable.

Legal Fees: Each party is responsible to pay their own legal fees

Filing Fees: The party who files

Expert Witness Fees: The party who retains the expert

Business Valuation Costs: The party who seeks the valuation

Appraisal: The party who obtains the appraisal

Pension Valuation: The party who obtains the valuation 

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Another Approach to Divorce – Collaborative Law

When getting divorced, there are several different approaches that a couple can choose. Some people opt for mediation to try to resolve their disputes and save them money. Others, take the traditional approach and opt for attorneys to handle everything. There is another approach that is less known but can be quite effective – collaborative law. Collaborative law, unlike mediation, involves two attorneys similar to the traditional approach. What makes collaborative law different, however, is that both spouses agree from day one that they want to settle everything out of court. They formalize this agreement in writing with their attorneys wherein they agree that they will make any and all efforts to resolve their issues involving divorce, custody, and support out of court. While they always reserve the option to go to court if they cannot reach an agreement, there is a hefty price to pay – loss of representation by both side’s attorneys. Even if one party is still willing to work it out of court, both spouse’s and their attorneys agree that if one of the parties decides to litigate, both attorneys will withdraw from the case and both parties will have to start over with new attorneys.

This option is a great option for parties who are both committed to settling their differences out of court but want the benefit of having legal advice that mediation does not provide. When hiring an attorney, you should ask if they are willing to handle collaborative law cases if this is an option that appeals to both you and your spouse.

 

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Dividing a Pension in Divorce and the Survivor Annuity

Oftentimes when parties get divorce, one of the biggest assets that they have accumulated is the pension of one or both of the spouses. In a Pennsylvania divorce, the pension portion that accumulates during the marriage is what is considered marital. There may also be a non-marital portion for the years of service prior to the marriage or the years of service after the marriage. When getting divorced, there are two methods of getting each spouse their share of that pension. One method is to do a percentage distribution of the marital years. When this method is use, the spouse receives a percentage multiplied by the number of years married that the pension accumulated divided by the total number of years that the pension accumulated. This is usually distributed by a separate document called a Qualified Domestic Relations Order which is often paid to and drafted by a company or firms that handles QDROs. The other method of distribution, and the preferred method by the Court (according to case law) is an offset. Under this method, the marital portion of the pension is assigned a dollar value based on a report prepared by a company who does pension valuations. This dollar value of the pension can then be swapped with other marital assets as an offset.

One often overlooked part of a pension is the survivor annuity. If a party has a pension, then the party who has the pension is given the option at retirement to select from several different options upon their death. This could include no survivor, a 75% survivor, 50% survivor, etc. This survivor benefit election is important in that if no survivor is elected, the one spouse will receive nothing upon death of the party who holds the pension. If a survivor benefit is elected, it reduces the monthly payment of both spouses when they receive the pension. Since only the spouse who will continue to receive the pension upon death of the pension holder will benefit, the surviving spouse has an asset known as the survivor benefit annuity which must be valued separate and apart from the principal of the pension. It is something that should be addressed at the time of divorce as once the pension is in pay status this election cannot be changed.

For additional information see: /Family-Law-Divorce/High-Income-Net-Worth-Divorce/Pensions-in-a-Divorce/

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How to Preserve Premarital Assets without a Prenuptial

If you are getting married and the idea of a prenuptial agreement puts a distaste in your mouth or that of your spouse, but you are still concerned about losing your premarital assets, there are a few things that you should and should not do if you get married without a prenuptial. Never add your spouse’s name to the house or bank account you had prior to marriage unless you are willing to gift this asset to the marriage. This is not to say that the house you own prior to your marriage will not be distributed in a divorce, but you can minimize the amount by keeping it separately deeded. The equity that you have when you get married will remain your asset should you get divorced. You should know what this value is when you get married by having the house appraised and keeping documentation on your mortgage balance at the time of your marriage. Without a prenuptial agreement, the increase in value during the marriage will become marital, whether or not you add your spouse to the deed or title of your account. If you have a mortgage and pay it off during the marriage, you will be accumulating marital equity even if the house does not go up value. In addition, if you have any bank accounts, you will want to keep the funds that you had going into the marriage in your separate name.

Once you start putting your premarital assets into a joint account, they become a gift to a marriage. This means that if you get divorced and have no prenuptial agreement, the Court will have to decide how to distribute this asset if you cannot agree. If you are in Bucks County, the court will normally apply a diminishing credit value meaning for every year that it was transferred into joint names, 1/20 of the asset will be considered as marital and you can seek a credit for the balance. After 20 years, you will get no credit for the premarital asset you contributed to joint names. When you start gifting your premarital assets to the marriage without a prenuptial in place, you should be very careful to document both the amount of your contribution and the source of funds. This way, if you do end up in a divorce, you will be better prepared to argue for the diminishing credit if you are in Bucks County or a more equitable share of the asset.

For more information on prenuptials, see /Family-Law-Divorce/Prenuptial-Agreements/

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